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Hmmmm…… very interesting topic “Love Marriage Ya Arranged Marriage!” Forget about Love and Arrange lets talk about marriage... feeling nervous? Or feeling shy? Or excitement? Whatever but… wait!! Are hundred questions moving around you?? Don’t know whether he/she will love me? Whether he/she will like me? What if she/he had many affairs in school, college? (Apply in Arrange Marriage normally but can happen in Love too). What if she/he won’t like me, doing Marriage just because of his/her parents wish? He/she is so beautiful/handsome will he/she be loyal with me forever? No, she/he doesn’t look good I can’t bear even a second with him/her…………… enough questions for now… but actually we think these much questions and not only these much I just mentioned very few questions besides that people think their Marriage as family point of view too. They think that person should take care of my parents, should respect me, should respect my family & parents etc etc etc ………

Let’s come to the Love Marriage what Love Birds think what other single people think. I am in relationship past 2 years with one guy sweet innocent, good looking, intelligent and what else….?? Yeah... good nature also and I trust him that he wont deceive me also and we are planning for marriage also after completing our education. Love Marriage of Shahrukh Khan & Gauri Khan is also quite interesting there is huge difference in religion still they are together so it’s depends on person also. One my friend Janvi (name changed) is in relationship when she was 12 years old she was in school when she felt love for her guy till now they are together now she is 21 years old sounds interesting don’t you think so “WooooW”…… what a love story!! 9 year relationship so lucky they people are... but can you imagine these 9 years how they kept their relationship?? No meeting once in a month and sometimes after 2-3 months no meeting nothing they fear from their family guy is south Indian and girl is Jain Marvari. Shocking na?? Totally opposite people but still they love each other they want to Marry also but they can’t go against their parents so they will try to convince their parents, but till now what I know about girl’s family they will feel better to kill her than this Cocktail Marriage. So their destiny knows what will happen. That’s not my point my point is Love Marriage.

Haan, so come to the point I am sharing my own experience what I feel regarding Marriage and what till know I understood from this beautiful life. I had many expectations from life 'I want this type of guy', 'that type of guy' etc, etc, etc. but when I fell in love I didn’t think about my expectations at all. It was beautiful moment which I ever feel in my entire life. I want to marry also but my condition is also same “L” guy is south Indian and me completely Brahmin girl (north Indian). In my entire family no one did love marriage till now. So when I think about Love Marriage I know parents won’t agree for it and even my guy’s parents also they are pure ‘Bunts’. So I think I should keep family aside for now when me & my guy we talk about marriage I always say, “ok” will do according to your wish and he also say, “will do according to you”. Good understanding everything but Marriage honestly speaking when he talks about Marriage I always think Am I Right?? Will I be able to modify my self at that point? Will he be loyal towards me after Marriage? Am I doing wrong to not informing my parents? Will my parents or his parents try to understand our feelings? And if yes then will they respect each other’s culture, language, thoughts, and beliefs?? Will they?? And the most worst thing I think whether that guy will be honest with me after Marriage also and what if I wont look good after a period of time will he leave me? Its one side part which my mind thinks now second part of my mind think No, he cant do this with me not at all, I trust him, and I know he is not those type of boy, but he can be. In one Sony Television’s serial “Kya Hua Tera Vada” after watching that serial I was quite shock, so anything can happen and serials are not actual stories it’s all fictitious stories but somewhere they are related with actual life of person also. After watching that I told my each and every friend that in today’s world no one can trust anyone. All are cheater actually it’s not my thinking its effect of serial “Kya Hua Tera Vada” after a period of time again was normal thought don’t compare your life with any serials.

Thousands questions in love marriages although we know that person very well, but still mind is unable to accept it. So after few seconds I think about arrange marriages they don’t even know anything regarding each other. At least I know sufficient things regarding my partner so I turn my mind from arrange marriages “No,” Love Marriage is better than Arranged marriages.

Now we discussed one side of Marriage you can’t take any decision after hearing one side (violation of the principal of natural justice, which lawyers call ‘Audi Alteram Partem’) so let hear and imagine second sort of Marriage i.e. Arrange Marriage. In Ramayana concept of Arrange Marriage was very popular. Rama-Sita’s Marriage was also an Arrange Marriage but they had love feelings too. They were aware from their partner obviously they were God so they know everything regarding their fate. Are we God? No, Rama-Sita’s Marriage was ideal Marriage I respect that Marriage they performed their each and every duty very well. In family our parents always think I just want one Rama for my daughter, I just want one Sita for my son. They want Rama-Sita not a true Partner for their child. Why they want to make their family like Ramayana? Ramayana is different compare to present world we can learn lot of things from Ramayana but we can’t be like its own character. God Ram left Sita when she was conceiving Luv-Kush in her womb he was performing her Karma (duty) towards his Praja (Citizen) but does he performed his duty of best husband? Was it justice with Sita? In the most critical situation her husband lefts her may be she didn’t mind it so severally but can you people bear it? Can I bear it? Can my parents bear it? Yet, they want God Rama type husbands for me for you people. I am not a God I am a small person who even can’t bear a single scratch on my body.

The best thing about Arranged Marriages cultural, language similarity which is awesome we can say. Arrange Marriage of Ram kapoor & Priya Kapoor (Husband Wife’s character in Sony televisions show “Bade Achche Lagte Hai”). Is best example for Arrange Marriage, story is fictitious but as I said above somewhere it’s related with human life. Usually in Arrange Marriages couples they don’t know each other very well but still they try to adjust and some people not even try they just expect. My parents had Arrange marriage but I always think do they have any crush, affairs before marriage or after that? I always think but answer is may be, may not be,... cant say! I am in Limbo. Arrange Marriages are good sometimes it works also but it’s hard to leave with Aliens. Questions which we discussed above come in both Love & Arrange marriages. In Love marriage you get Half readymade Partner and in Arrange Marriage you get Raw material you can say (no hurt intended). What we want depends on us not to parents, family and, friends etc. marriage you will do only once (twice thrice also but as per Indian tradition, law its not allowed but after divorce you can that’s new method). And, if doing second Marriage you have to give divorce then first court proceedings and all after that you have to give compensation too…. After big procedure what you getting?? Nothing insult in society insult everywhere….

A still from Sony Television's “Byah Hamari Bahu Ka”

CONCLUSION: In Love Marriage you will get love at least may be person will remain loyal till the end or may be till half path but you will feel proud Yes, I also have a Beautiful Love-Story and in Arrange you can get Love but not sure may be. Or may be your Love-Story can start after Arranged Marriage whatever case love wins in the end. Just believe in one thing we should love that person with whom we going to spend our whole life. Don’t force your self to love someone. Let it be on Love. Love will come to receive you don’t force it. I know one more T.V. Serial of Sony Television “Byah Hamari Bahu Ka” don’t know why they doing marriage of their Bahu?? (hehhehe JjokeJ story is totally different compared to title till now I can say further don’t know) story is also quite good girl she didn’t force herself to Love her husband that’s quite good she felt love and consequences of love we all know. For Arrange Marriages ya Love Marriages honestly speaking Love should be in each and every marriage. Everyone is not so lucky like Priya Kapoor and Ram Kapoor and also not unlucky like Mona & her husband. My sister she used to say Priya is so lucky because my sister she likes Ram Kapoor’s character lot smart, wealthy, well mannered person everyone will like. But life is quite different if u getting “Love” then no money. If money then no time to spend with your partner. So just expect a good life partner that can get either by Love Marriages or Arranged Marriages.

I would like to dedicate this small poem for all cute couples:

JJust Live Happy Married LifeJ

Life is when, when you touch my soul.

Life is when, when u understand everything through my eyes.

Life is when, when you can read my heart beats.

Life is when, when I don’t feel alone in worst situation also.

My life is nothing when it’s without your hand which you hold.

I say, “I don’t love you again and again.”

But I actually say, “I can’t live a jiffy if it’s without you.”

I say, “I am very brave but I actually have your strength.”

And when I say, “I am very weak I say I want you forever.”

When I don’t say anything it means I am saying thanks to GOD.