Marriage- How it impacts Love-Relationships...

 

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"Rahul, I do Love you, it’s just that I don't want to get married now. I am just 24 and I want to explore my life, that's it." 

I never wanted to be so rude with him but he was not ready to understand my single point and broke all his relations with me.

I remember when I met him for the first time 6 years ago in my law college; it was indeed a best moment of my life. We both were so happy but this marriage part always used to upset me as I needed some time before to get married. I was not that type of girl who could handle typical Indian traditional families and I knew that I cannot act like best Bahu, Bhabhi etc. 

It’s been 2 years we haven't spoke to each other but I really didn't break up with him it was all circumstances which compelled me to get separated from him. Yes, I do love him, I really cannot forget him. He was my first kiss, my first love and my first sex. 

His soul gave a very essential fragrance and impact to my character which helped me to glow even more as a better person.

I know that the word "Sex" creates so much excitement in everyone's mind but it's just an amazing incident which makes relationship even more beautiful and fills life with flowery fragrance of love. He was my life and I guess still he is and being one of the reason which didn't ever allow me to get involve with anyone in love sense.

He still lives in my memories and still I cherish those moments which I had spent with him.  

I remember that time which helped us to come closer and it was---------

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"It was Saturday and he called me up--------

"Let’s meet up today will go for a movie, what say??"

"Yeah sure"...

12 o" clock noon we met at Inox theatre in Mumbai and after watching Two-states movie we rushed ahead to our respective destinations.

I remember that day when he was hesitating to ask me for something but I couldn't figure it out; after a jiffy he said-

"Will you mind to stay at my flat?? As we can spend some good time together"

I was not so shocked at all because I had lot of male friends with whom I used to hang out in group and without even giving a second thought I nodded in affirmative way as I was already excited to see my beloved's personal stuff.

We reached at his flat and then I saw such a horror part of his flat which one can see when few guys live all alone in PG.

It was the dirtiest place which I had ever seen in my life. We had lots of formal talk, we were dating each other too but we never had any romantic sort of moments during initial period of our relationship as we both were two different persons our choices and likeness were totally opposite to each other.

After seeing his smelly flat; I was really not willing to stay there for a second also but just for the sake of his happiness I barely managed to stay and that decision of mine changed my life. I had sex for the first time and from that day onwards our life also changed and relationship too.

We became so crazy for each other which I never expected that a girl like me can do so. Indeed it was a best part of my life and my relationship grew even stronger after having that amazing moment together with my lover.  

But as usual it turns mandatory after a period of time to decide about marriage and I was not that sort of person who would prefer to get married so early.

And that decision impacted my love- story too.

He proposed me for marriage for which I was not ready atleast for few years and that gave forever impact to my life and today I am 35 still sweet single and madly in love with him".

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But I still love him because for me marriage doesn’t impact relationship and in India for almost 80% population marriage impacts so much that they break their relationships too if their partner seeks some time to get cozy with the concept of marriage. 

For me marriage does not play as essential role as my feelings. Marriage is just an institution which validate the physical intimation of couples. Indeed its important but it should not come at the cost of your partner's happiness.

One question always run in my mind that “When you love someone so truly then how come such a small & tiny issue becomes so relevant that you become least bother for your relationship over man-made regulations which is known as marriage??

 

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It still impacts me.....

This blog post is inspired by the blogging marathon hosted on IndiBlogger for the launch of the #Fantastico Zica from Tata Motors. You can apply for a test drive of the hatchback Zica today.

One thing always hurts me and compels me to think about the reasons why god has created this world for us? What hurts more?? Love? Or its rejection or cold behaviour of your loved ones??

Life has always been cruel  to Vrinda and sometimes the most innocent child but in all these life's emotional trauma if something really impacted her mind then I would say its “Emotions” which impacted and created a substantial effect on her soul forever.

We make thousands of promises for future events which do not even exist while making such promises; but when gradually that time comes we realise how stupid we were!! We made several promises but life wanted something else from us.

This below mentioned emotional poem is a silent part of some untold emotions of a matured Vrinda who realised the main cause of her mental trauma but decided to be nice with the cruel life. This is how life goes on and keeps on moving with the flow.

 

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Was it really true?

I was standing near the crowded Mumbai beach,

My painful voice of heart was screaming shouting to call you back but to your egoistic heart it couldn't reach,

I stabbed inside my heart to take out my feelings for you,

My dreams were lying on the dying dew.

Were you really in love with me or were love lying only in me??

Emotional trauma of my heart why only you couldn't see??

Was it a love story of “I" and "you” or were there of us together "we"??

Were you actually working for us or just trying to be busy bee.

Thought of murder of our love story gives me a tremendous pain

I managed to walk miles to meet you in heavy rain.

You called my efforts and love as only a stain

Now I have shifted you from my heart to brain.

Was this so called feelings just a temporary love flue?

Or you actually had intention to stick with me like glue??

We plan so much for our future which does not even exist when we are together.

What is bad about Mumbai??

Actually it’s a great city to live if you want to stay in India. But the worst part of it is that your tears will get melt in heavy rain and your painful voice will remain unheard due to crowded voice of its population.

Love happens, gives immense happiness to everyone but it comes with the cost which is really expensive and for the whole life you will keep on compensating with your tears.

Love doesn’t hurt but if it happens to wrong person then it gives durable dark spots on your heart.  

What remains in your hand  after loving someone truly and relentlessly??

“ Just a thought of love and to be loved by someone special whom you had loved once and forever”

Yes, your memories and love still impacts me!!!