Best Father, unfaithful husband- A letter to father

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Beloved Papa,

First of all I would like to say thanks to you and mom as you both gave me birth. You and mom didn’t kill me when I was in mom’s womb. I know that I was your unwanted child as you already had decent family planning but I came in this world by mistake. After an attempt of abortion I still survived completely by god’s grace.

Papa, I really love you a lot and I would be loving you this much even after my marriage and I know that you also love me a lot. You always have taken proper care of me. You always have saved me from the hardship of this artificial and filthy world. I always wanted to be your son instead of your daughter so that I can live with you forever and I agree that you never discriminated with me on gender basis. You taught me several things that helped me to survive in this world.

Today, I am a proud woman only because of you as you gave me proper education; you taught me moral values and most importantly you always encouraged me to fight for my rights. I remember how you supported me when the entire society was against me when I took a decision to call off my engagement.

We always have shared an awesome bonding of father and daughter. I always wish to god to give everyone a father like you but I do not wish that god should give anyone a husband as you are.

You were/are amazing father but not amazing husband. Since my childhood I have seen those fights between you and mom and after each fight mom used to cry a lot. I know that you had past affairs too and I believe you still have. I always ask myself that why didn’t mom leave you even after knowing that you have extra marital-affairs?? May be an illiterate woman from a rigid Indian Community do not have that right to access in order to protect her own self respect.

I don’t want my future husband/partner to be like you. Actually I do not expect any honesty or loyalty from male society as you have sown that seed in me. I have seen your cold behaviour towards my mom and that behaviour of yours turned me so stone-hearted that today I do not believe in the concept of marriage.

I know you were/are with mom because you had/have to be with her in order to perform social rituals and rites towards this artificial society. But your broken marriage has always given me a tremendous pain inside and consequentially I started getting scared from marriage talks.

I am afraid of commitment. I always feel if you’re this trait comes within me; or if my future husband/partner would do what you have done to my mom. I know it would become painful for you as well to see my sufferings but I guess that would be the only possible way that could make you to feel my mom’s pain.

Somewhere I try my best to understand your situations but being a woman I am completely against of sharing my husband/partner with any other woman.

You always ask me that what sort of person I want in my life as my future husband/partner I always scream inside me that “definitely not like you”. Yet, I still love my father in the same proportion as I hate my mother’s husband but I understand my mother’s husband’s love life and somewhere it was one of the reasons I never have  interfered between you and mom.

I know relations are complicated and confusing but you have made them in this way and I run from commitments because I don’t want to repeat this history. I don’t want to be that victim which sounds like my mom.

I want to stay alone forever if not alone then probably with the person without any expectations and commitments because I am afraid of commitments in real life. 

Yours,

 Unwanted Child.

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Its completely an imaginary letter intended to tell the men society that how you treat your wife is going to be judged by your own daughter, so be nice with your wife.... avoid domestic violence. Some domestic violence can be something similar to what I have stated in this letter... and this violence remains unheard within the four corners of a room.